Tuesday, March 17, 2009
wuthering heights--> marriage and money.
whenever young women are asked about what they look for in a man, a few key characteristics come to mind. some of them for me would include: charming, loyal, funny, cute, and knows how to live life to the fullest. :) but even though some women don't always say it, in the very back of their minds, the majority of women do take into consideration whether or not this amazing guy they have found has the ability to keep a family financially stable for the rest of their life together. unfortunately, especially in today's society, money is just about everything. even though it can't buy happiness, it is a necessity that everyone needs in order to survive. so for me, i would say a good amount of women would choose a man with money, over a man who didn't have as much to reassure them that they can live comfortably. but i want to make this clear, in no way am i saying that women need to heavily rely on men for income, and not bring majority of the "bacon" home, because i am most definitely in favor of that lol. but i do feel as though it still remains a fantasy for women to have a man who is their soul mate, and not to have him be rich, but to have him be somewhat of a stable "rock" that they can rely on if the time comes to leave her job in order to take of their children.
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of course every girl out there wants a guy and says they don't care about money. but realistically with the economy this nation is in, money actually plays a very big part of a relationship these days. as many women there are working, the man still usually brings home the larger income. women want to know they will be provided for and will have a home to live in. most would rather have that love. hopefully, the economy will rise soon and relationships will be based around personalities and not money again.
oh heyy jenny :D
i agree with what you're saying because no matter what we say, women all know that having a man with money will settle some worry in her heart. i think money should be a factor when being in a relationship or marrying a man because if he cannot financially support you, then there could be disputes. this economy factors into the money problem as well.
hopefully everyone grows up to be happy and with the love of their life!
<3, jamie
Jen, yes sadly you are dead on. There are tons of women who date specifically rich men. Some call them gold diggers, i call them lazy. Celebrities that are "looking for love" are pretty much asking...oh hey date me and you can live the luxurious life and have tons of money and fame. I can almost guarantee that half the contestants on the show are not in it for the celebrity but for the money or fame. But i mean you cant answer many of these topics because on the other hand i know there are people out there who don't care about the money they just love the person because they are genuine. I know that many people out there want to live the good life with tons of money but is money worth living a crappy life with someone you don't even love?
Jen,
I agree with this post. Obviously, a man who has money is a lot better than not a man who doesn't have money. I don't believe it is shallow for a woman to look for and to feel secure with a prosperous man. Only naturally, a woman would feel more comfortable with a man who has the ability to support a family, and a man who isn't stingy and limited in the things to do as a family for fun. It often feels embarrassing to admit that a man with money is more attractive than a man without, but in actuality, I think it is an important quality that determines the future of a relationship and family.
i agree with this. Im actually surprised that a woman actually admitted that money is something that a girl will look for in a man. You made it clear that there are things more important than money, and money is only a little part in it. I think money is more a part of it than you are admitting, but i am still impressed that you didn't have too much self pride to admit that.
PS did you take those characteristics u describe from robbie? haha jw. i hope you guys have many more crying romantic dates!!!!
Hey Jen! So obviously this is a popular blog since so many people commented on it. I too liked it and will share my opinions. I did not write about this in my blog, although it was a question that stuck out at me. I do agree with what you write and props for being confident enough to write about it, but I do disagree in a sense. I feel as though most women will look at a man mainly because of how much money he has and yes it is nice, but not something I would base my decision 100% off of. I think women look for this because it gives them a sense of security and comfort. But, I strongly believe that money cannot buy happiness and there are way more important things in life. I would much rather be with a man that I love for other reasons than just his money.
Dear Jenny the Penny,
What a cowinkadink! I also blogged about women and how they prefer rich men over poor men when it comes to marriage. Different women have different tastes in men and certain characteristics or aspect of men attract some women but not others. However, one aspect that attracts all women is the amount of wealth a man possesses. Some women may try and strike down my opinion, but I have proof that women are attracted by money. I mean, just look at all the marriages of millionaires and billionaires. In most cases, the rich man is married to an individual that is younger and attractive. Now you can't possibly persuade me to believe that all the women married them for their looks and charms.
O and by the way, that comment Mikedcts made....spot on.
Ok call me insecure but I would NEVER want to marry a women who's income was greater than mine. That would totally screw with the balance of things. A man is supposed to be the one carrying the family. If my wife was making more money than me I'd probably just buy myself an apron, chill at home, and call it a life. < ok so that was a little sexist but it's funny so i'm leaving it there, however that doesn't change my position on this matter. I would feel like less of a man if my wife was raking in the dough and I was at home baking it. LOLOLOLOL that one was funny to. It's a pun get it.
I agree with you on the money part because it is possible for women to get ahead in this world. You're right about how today's society is run by money and how it is important to have a stable family for the future so life doesn't become a job. Also, i do agree that women should be independent but i also believe that a woman is really responsible for a baby's upbringing.
I think what you are talking about is important in any relationship. For a couple to be successful, there needs to be someone there who is able to support the family. No matter how much love there is, love won't put food on the table, and love won't give them some place to live. I completely agree with everything you say here, and I think it is important that couples understand this.
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